Growing up I was taught many things from my Dad. Not everything was verbal and many lessons he tried to teach I did not understand until I was older. Today's world is a bit different there is so much to distract a young man and it is more important than ever that a Father be involved in his Sons life than ever before. These lessons are items I have gathered and put down to provide a reference around what a dad need to do.
An interesting note is that it is easy to forget these lessons as you age and it is good to remind yourself of why you are here on this planet.
- No one will love you as much as your Mother
No woman, no friend, no organization, no group will ever love you as much as your mother does. The love of a Mother is unique. It's a blessing you can rely on as long as she lives.
Do Not expect this type of love from anyone else, especially your spouse, if you do it will lead to heartbreak. - Life's “NOT Fair” get used to it.
Life treats everyone differently, in this way we are all the same.
There are those who are dealt an easy hand. And those who will face unbelievable difficulty.
The only certainty is that nothing is fair. Don't compare yourself to others. Their life isn't the same. - Choosing a spouse is the greatest decision a Man will ever make. The right woman will propel you to greatness
And the wrong one will lead to ruin.
When selecting a mate choose a woman who aligns with your values and supports your goals.
If you want the same things out of life, and you walk in lockstep, you'll both be unstoppable.
Women choose who they will sleep with, Men Choose who they will Marry - Pornography is evil
Porn is designed to hijack and overstimulate your dopamine reward pathway.
Porn destroys your natural masculine drive to create, reproduce, and conquer.
Not to mention it profits off the exploitation of countless women and underaged girls. Very bad news. - Your ancestors knew more than you think they did.
Remember and respect your ancestors. Do not dismiss their ideas, the customs, and the traditions just because they're “old”
“Tradition is a solution for problems that have been forgotten. If You Remove the tradition, you get the problem back”
Honor your ancestors and keep them close in mind - You must control your emotions
Read carefully: DO NOT suppress your emotions. CONTROL your emotions. Big difference
Develop the discipline to control the time, manner, audience, and means of their expression.
Remember: if you're led by your emotions you can't possibly lead others. - Pain is a pre-requisite for growth
The strongest men always experience the most pain.
That's the reason they're strong.
Pain either kills you or makes you stronger. As long as you stay alive, view pain as your friend and ally. - There's always someone smarter than you
There's always someone smarter. There's always someone more talented. There's always someone more blessed by the world.
Learn, Know and leverage the strengths you have. Learn how to befriend those with the strengths you lack. - Women are attracted to high value Men
Here's the big secret: women want winners. They wait at the finish line and pick the winners.
It's as Simple as that. Who would've thought? So do not focus on chasing women.
Go out and make yourself undeniably great, focus on your mission, and you'll realize there are plenty of good women in the world who want to join you. be very selective when you do choose do not be in a rush on this one. You have time where women's time is limited. - Women recoil from neediness.
If she's the most important thing in your life, your time with her is limited. If she feels you need her then she will get bored. Why?
Neediness is a cousin of desperation. Neediness implies “she's the best you can get.” It implies she's your only option.
And no woman wants that. Always show that you have options. - Physical strength = overall strength
Creating an enviable physique is hard. It requires discipline and years of training.
Do it anyway.
Life is easier when you're strong. Be strong and the world will treat you differently.
It's not fair, it's just reality. 
People treat you how you treat yourself
Respect Yourself first. Nobody will ever respect you more than you respect yourself.
If you present yourself like a slob…
If you take no pride in your appearance, physical health, hygiene…
If you're a servant to vice…
No one will take you seriously.- Do all the little things
Fix the lightbulb, take out the trash, unclog the toilet. Replace your air filters, mow the lawn.
When the little things around the house need to get done, do them. That's your job. Nobody's going to do it for you.
Take ownership of your surroundings. That's what a man does. - Everything is earned
You're owed nothing. And the world will treat you as such.
You must believe you're capable, and you must believe you WILL achieve your goals.
But never rely on others to do the work for you.
Remember: if you don't earn it, it isn't really yours. - Self-respect is supreme
Without self-respect, nothing else in life is possible.
Discipline, integrity, work ethic, your values: they're all made possible through self-respect.
Guide yourself by asking: “What would a self-respecting man do?”
Then do that thing. Forever. - Be kind to all
Benevolence is the real flex.
Kindness implies strength. Only a strong man can afford to be truly kind…
Because in doing so he expects nothing in return.
But don't confuse kindness with ‘niceness'. These are two VERY different things. - Regret will kill you
You'll make mistakes.
There will be many times regret rears its head. You'll look back on your past and wonder.
Instead: see it as data
It's just lessons to learn and get better.
And remember: no one thinks about you more than you think about yourself - Practice seasons of asceticism
There's a reason all cultures throughout history practice some version of asceticism.
Removal of unearned dopamine isn't just good for the brain, it's good for the soul.
If you can find peace when you have nothing, you can find peace anywhere - Find a fraternity of men
We evolved for brotherhood and friendship among equals.
But we've lost our way as a society. Men today are isolated, alone, tribeless.
This is the cause of much of their unhappiness. I don't care if you're “introverted”, you need other men in your life. - It's supposed to be hard
When you're doing something difficult and you want to quit, remind yourself:
“It's supposed to be hard. If it was easy, I wouldn't be getting better.”
Becoming elite is never easy. If it was, that word would lose all meaning.
When it all seems hard remember the following Poem from Edgar Guest
Keep Going
by
Edgar Guest
When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
And the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns.
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow.
Often the goal is nearer than it seems
To a faint and faltering man.
Often the struggler has given up when he
Might have captured the victor's cup,
And he learned too late when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are.
It may be near when it seems afar.
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit.
It's when things seem worst that
You musn’t quit.
